Hi guys. I'd like some input on how to handle this situation I'm in- without causing any conflict, or loosing a tight friendship. Usually I'm the one giving advice, but after several attempts, I'm out of ideas.
I purchased a 2002 kia spectra last year off Ebay- cost was $2200(blue book $5000!)
I drove it to/from work for about 2 months and cracked the box under the car that holds tranny fluid-fluid went dry..and transmission blew! So my car sat in my driveway for just about 1 year. Then paid $1300 to get a new transmission. Got it inspected (April this was that I got it back on the road), and oil change, and drove it for a few days.
My neighbor/very close friend is a 62 y/o man that had no a/c in his 3 vehicles and asked if he could borrow my car because temps were rising. I said sure, since I also had my Toyota Highlander here. Well, to make a long story short, He still is driving my Kia!!!!!!! I have used the car to go to the airport once, and said'Oh ya know, I really miss my Kia" He said"I understand. Dont worry about it..I'm gonna get my van fixed this weekend"..never happened. I have also dropped about 3 more major hints over the past few weeks..like "so, do you need Dave and I to spot you with some cash to get the air conditioning fixed in 1 of the other cars?"..he said no, no..i dont need money. grrrrrrrrr
Granted, this summer has been brutal & he's done so much for my family too. So I feel I am paying it forward since I had to borrow my friends car last year when my kia broke(only for a few days at a time though), I also feel like im helping a senior,lol..BUT....what really pisses me off is that he was to borrow the car to get to/from work when it was hot. Yesterday, it was a bit cool, and he had the windows down, and took my Kia to Richmond to go to the baseball game AND I found out he parked it in downtown Richmond!!!!!! WTH?????
And, I have driven the car last weekend when hubby took our other car to NJ to visit family, and he has destroyed my baby Kia! There are cigar ashes all over the car, including the ashtray being overflowed, the frame where the a/c controllers are is all pushed in, and the car smells like molded old man sweat! ugh1
Oh, AND...when I 1st bought the car, when I got the tranny fixed, and when i had it inspected, I had mechanics give it a once over to be sure absolutely nothing was wrong with it.And it was perfect! WELL, 2 weeks ago, the alternator went.Could it be because he floors the pedal trying to goto 0 to 100 up our block every frigin day!!!????? Yes, he paid to get it fixed. But not the point.
I am at my witts end, and coming very close to running my Italian Jersey Girl mouth at him and just ending it.Apparently, being nice, and dropping hint after hint is not working.
So I ask for advice/suggestions on how to approach him for the last time today before I lose my mind and my friendship. Either way, I'm sure this will end in hard feelings. I cant let this continue anymore.Hes had and been destroying my car since April now.
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- u Aug 26, 10, 12:41:56 PM
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Zdravo momci. Želeo bih da dobijem informacije o tome kako da se nosim sa ovom situacijom u kojoj se nalazim - bez izazivanja sukoba ili gubitka bliskog prijateljstva. Obično ja dajem savete, ali posle nekoliko pokušaja, ja sam bez ideja.
Kupio sam kia spectra iz 2002. prošle godine na Ebai-u - cena je bila 2200 dolara (plava knjiga 5000 dolara!)
Vozio sam ga na posao/sa posla oko 2 meseca i slomio kutiju ispod auta u kojoj se nalazi tranni tečnost-tečnost se osušila..i menjač je eksplodirao! Tako je moj auto stajao na mom prilazu samo oko godinu dana. Zatim je platio 1300 dolara da dobijem novi prenos. Pregledao sam ga (ovo je april bio da sam ga vratio na put), promenio ulje i vozio ga nekoliko dana.
Moj komšija/veoma blizak prijatelj je muškarac od 62 godine koji nije imao klimu u svoja 3 vozila i pitao je da li može da pozajmi moj auto jer su temperature rasle. Rekao sam sigurno, pošto sam ovde imao i svoju Toiotu Highlander. Pa, da skratim priču, on još uvek vozi moju Kiju!!!!!!! Jednom sam koristio auto da bih otišao na aerodrom i rekao: „O, znaš, stvarno mi nedostaje moja Kia“, rekao je „Razumem. Ne brini o tome..Popraviću svoj kombi ovog vikenda"..nikad se nije desilo. Takođe sam izneo još 3 glavna nagoveštaja u poslednjih nekoliko nedelja...kao "dakle, da li vam treba Dave i ja da primetimo imaš nešto novca da popraviš klimu u još jednom autu?"..rekao je ne, ne..ne treba mi novac. grrrrrrrrr
Doduše, ovo leto je bilo brutalno i uradio je mnogo za moju porodicu. Tako da osećam da to plaćam unapred pošto sam morao da pozajmim auto od prijatelja prošle godine kada mi se kia pokvarila (ipak samo na nekoliko dana), takođe se osećam kao da pomažem starijem, lol... ALI... .ono što me stvarno nervira je to što je trebalo da pozajmi auto da stigne na posao/sa posla kada je vruće. Juče je bilo malo kul, i on je spustio prozore, i odneo moju Kiju u Ričmond da ide na bejzbol utakmicu I saznao sam da ju je parkirao u centru Ričmonda!!!!!! VTH?????
I, vozio sam auto prošlog vikenda kada je mužić odveo naš drugi auto u NJ da poseti porodicu, i uništio je moju bebu Kiju! Pepeo od cigara ima po celom automobilu, uključujući i pepeljaru koja je prepuna, okvir gde su kontroleri klima uređaja je sav gurnut, a automobil miriše na ukalupljeni starčev znoj! ugh1
Oh, I... kada sam prvi put kupio auto, kada sam popravio tranni i kada sam ga pregledao, dao sam mehaničare da ga jednom pogledaju da bih bio siguran da apsolutno ništa nije u redu sa njim. I bio je savršen! PA, pre 2 nedelje, pokvario se alternator. Da li je to zato što je pritisnuo pedalu pokušavajući da od 0 do 100 dostigne naš blok svakog prvog dana!!!????? Da, platio je da to popravi. Ali nije poenta.
Ja sam na kraju pameti, i približavam se tome da mu svoju italijansku devojku iz dresa nabacim i samo završim. Očigledno, biti fin i ispuštati nagoveštaj za nagoveštajem ne funkcioniše.
Zato tražim savet/predloge kako da mu priđem poslednji put danas pre nego što izgubim razum i prijateljstvo. U svakom slučaju, siguran sam da će se ovo završiti teškim osećanjima. Ne mogu dozvoliti da se ovo više nastavi. On je uništavao moj auto od aprila. -
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- u Aug 26, 10, 12:52:03 PM
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Forgot to add...when I drove it last weekend, i noticed it is over 1000 miles overdue for an oil change..so he has put over 4000 miles on it!!!! >:(
Zaboravio sam da dodam... kada sam ga vozio prošlog vikenda, primetio sam da je preko 1000 milja zakasnilo za zamenu ulja.. tako da je prešao preko 4000 milja!!!! >:(
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- u Aug 26, 10, 12:56:02 PM
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Go over there, ring the doorbell, ask if you can come in. Tell him you are sorry to have to do so but need the keys back. Tell him you are no longer comfortable with the car being driven by someone not on your insurance, or just you are no longer comfortable loaning out your car. Tell him it is stressing you out and for him to give you the keys NOW,please.
Lots of people can't understand hints. I usually don't, but I DO understand when someone tells me what is really up.
You don't have to be mean or stressed or get angry. If he won't give you the keys, don't feel bad asking the police to escort you there to get your keys back. Or, tell him your friend (me) here with NO car would love to drive his van while he putts around in your car.
Also look up how much a rental company charges per mile on a rental and tell him you'll need to collect that from him for wear and tear. Also YOU are liable if he wrecks it and kills someone or causes damages.Idi tamo, pozvoni na vrata, pitaj da li možeš da uđeš. Reci mu da ti je žao što to moraš da uradiš, ali da ti trebaju ključevi nazad. Recite mu da vam više nije prijatno da auto vozi neko ko nije u vašem osiguranju, ili vam jednostavno više nije prijatno da pozajmite svoj automobil. Reci mu da te to opterećuje i da ti da ključeve SADA, molim te.
Mnogi ljudi ne mogu da razumeju nagoveštaje. Obično ne razumem, ali razumem kada mi neko kaže šta se zaista dešava.
Ne morate da budete zlobni, pod stresom ili da se ljutite. Ako vam ne da ključeve, nemojte se osećati loše da tražite od policije da vas otprati tamo da vam vrate ključeve. Ili mu recite da vaš prijatelj (ja) ovde bez automobila ne bi voleo da vozi njegov kombi dok se on ubacuje u vaš auto.
Takođe pogledajte koliko kompanija za iznajmljivanje naplaćuje po milji za iznajmljivanje i recite mu da ćete to morati da naplatite od njega zbog habanja. I VI ste odgovorni ako ga on uništi i ubije nekoga ili izazove štetu. -
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- u Aug 26, 10, 01:01:07 PM
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AC.. very very hard to do, i understand.. his age and him being a neighbor and friend when you need him.. this is a toughy..
But you have GOT to go over there and ask for your keys, make up something if you have to, "My sister/brother needs the car he can't get to work" anything, something.. The man has something to fall back on.. his own cars, they are only driven to work when he gets inside his place of employment he is out of the heat. I can see that it will get nothing more then worse and worse, as i can see from what you have typed he is disrespecting your kindness and your belongings.
I'd see it as fine IF there was no damage occuring, IF it was not bothering me IF i was seeing an attemp for him to be fixing his cars, but he has no excuses.. he doesn't need your help or money.. he just wants to USE your car.
AC put a stop to it before it gets any worse, you won't lose a friend now, but you if you wait any longer you could lose a friend and your car.AC.. veoma je teško uraditi, razumem.. njegove godine i da je komšija i prijatelj kada ti treba.. ovo je teško..
Ali moraš da odeš tamo i tražiš ključeve, izmisliš nešto ako moraš, "mojoj sestri/bratu treba auto do kojeg ne može da dođe na posao" bilo šta, nešto.. Čovek ima šta da vrati na.. sopstvenim automobilima, oni se voze na posao samo kada uđe u svoje radno mesto, van vrućine. Vidim da neće biti ništa više nego gore i gore, kao što vidim iz onoga što ste otkucali on ne poštuje vašu dobrotu i vaše stvari.
Smatrao bih to u redu DA nije bilo štete, DA mi nije smetalo AKO sam video pokušaj da popravlja svoja kola, ali on nema izgovora.. ne treba mu tvoja pomoć ili novac .. on samo želi da KORISTI tvoj auto.
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- u Aug 26, 10, 01:04:07 PM
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Ok enough is enough..get your car back. There is being nice and those who take advantage of it. I guarantee he's not worrying as much about overstaying his welcome with using your car as you are stressing about getting it back. Whether he needs it more the point is it is your car and you don't need to contemplate on asking for it back or not.
That is really great of you that you let him borrow it and he is a neighbor who has helped you a lot too. But if he doesn't need money to fix it which means he has the money to fix his car then he should really be doing the right thing and giving you your car back. Keep it short and somehow get a deadline set with him as to when you're getting it back..don't give reasons or excuses or when you do you'll be consumed with following up on all those "pretend" reasons or excuses.U redu, dosta je.. vrati svoj auto. Ima lepog i onih koji to iskorištavaju. Garantujem da on ne brine toliko o tome da li će prekoračiti svoju dobrodošlicu korišćenjem vašeg automobila, koliko se vi trudite da ga vratite. Da li mu je više potreban, poenta je da je to vaš auto i ne morate razmišljati da li tražite da vam ga vrate ili ne.
Zaista je sjajno od vas što ste mu dozvolili da ga pozajmi i on je komšija koji je i vama mnogo pomogao. Ali ako mu nije potreban novac da ga popravi, što znači da ima novca da popravi svoj auto, onda bi zaista trebao da radi pravu stvar i da vam vrati auto. Budite kratki i nekako mu odredite rok kada ćete ga dobiti nazad.. nemojte davati razloge ili izgovore ili kada to učinite bićete zaokupljeni praćenjem svih tih "pretvarajućih" razloga ili izgovora . -
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- u Aug 26, 10, 01:05:27 PM
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I say go Jersey on his a**
Ok just kidding, but it is high time to take your car back before it is completely destroyed! Just keep it 100 and let him know it has been 5 months and that was not the deal. Tell him you feel a bit taken advantage of and that is not the impression you want to have of him! Tell him he has until xxxxx amount of days(like 1 , just kidding again! seriously though, like 3-5) and you will be taking, not needing it back(because apparently he doesn't take to the subtle hints), but taking it back!
As far as him doing things for you, it doesn't mean you owe him anything! When I do something for someone it is out of my heart, I never bring it up that I had to do this or that for them and I never look for anything in return except appreciation! Furthermore A, you have probably paid it forward in so many other ways, for so many other different people. If by getting back what is yours ends the friendship, then guess what, that is a friend you can stand to lose! Go get your car!
P.S. my mom is about that age and I do NOT consider her a needy little ol' senior! And believe me she is the type who would pull some crap like that(and has to a lesser degree) and would think she was within her rights. Ans she is a christian
so when she gets beside herself, I say "Jehovah God is watching you," And she stops the madness!Kažem idi Džersi na njegovu guzicu
Ok, šalim se, ali krajnje je vreme da vratite svoj auto pre nego što bude potpuno uništen! Samo zadržite 100 i recite mu da je prošlo 5 meseci i da to nije dogovor. Recite mu da se osećate pomalo iskorišćeno i da to nije utisak koji želite da imate o njemu! Recite mu da ima do hhhhh dana (npr. 1 , opet se šalim! ali ozbiljno, kao 3-5) i ti ćeš uzeti, neće mu trebati nazad (jer on očigledno ne prihvata suptilne nagoveštaje), već ćeš ga uzeti nazad!
Što se tiče toga da on radi stvari za vas, to ne znači da mu nešto dugujete! Kada uradim nešto za nekoga, to mi nije od srca, nikada ne spominjem da sam morao da uradim ovo ili ono za njega i nikada ne tražim ništa zauzvrat osim zahvalnosti! Štaviše, A, verovatno ste to platili na mnogo drugih načina, za toliko drugih ljudi. Ako povratkom onoga što je vaše završi prijateljstvo, pogodite šta, to je prijatelj kojeg možete izgubiti! Idi po svoj auto!
PS moja mama je otprilike tih godina i NE smatram je starijom u potrebi! I verujte mi da je ona tip koji bi tako srao (a ima u manjoj meri) i mislio bi da je u skladu sa svojim pravima. I ona je hrišćanka pa kad ona postane van sebe, ja kažem „Jehova Bog te posmatra,“ I ona zaustavlja ludilo! -
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- u Aug 26, 10, 01:06:48 PM
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Chilly,
Thanks for advice. 1st we are so close, we just give a quick knock, and walk into each others homes. Like family.
Thats another thought that you helped me realize... My husband is still paying the insurance and registration on a car im not driving!
He won't give me a hard time about giving me the key back---But I know hes going to be upset about it.
He claims it cost him $400 for a new alternator and battery(i had a brand new batterry installed after I bought the car!)and $400 seems like a lot-even for labor.
I don't think I could ever charge him for wear/tear.I just cant do that to him. Im so confused.It hurts my heart to have to do this but I can't be crapped on like this anylonger. I was always raised to treat others property better than your own.Apparently, not everyone was raised with the same morals/values.hladno,
Hvala za savet. 1. tako smo blizu, samo brzo pokucamo i uđemo jedni drugima u domove. Kao porodica.
To je još jedna misao koju ste mi pomogli da shvatim... Moj muž još uvek plaća osiguranje i registraciju za auto koji ne vozim!
Neće mi smetati da mi vrati ključ --- Ali znam da će biti uznemiren zbog toga.
Tvrdi da ga je koštalo 400 dolara za novi alternator i bateriju (imao sam potpuno novu bateriju instaliranu nakon što sam kupio auto!) i 400 dolara izgleda kao mnogo - čak i za rad.
Mislim da mu nikada ne bih mogao naplatiti habanje. Jednostavno mu to ne mogu učiniti. Tako sam zbunjena. Boli me srce što moram ovo da uradim, ali ne mogu više da budem sranje na ovaj način. Uvek sam odgajan tako da se ophodim prema tuđoj imovini bolje nego prema svojoj. Očigledno, nisu svi odgajani sa istim moralom/vrednostima. -
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- u Aug 26, 10, 01:09:26 PM
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AHAHAHA SLOT JUNKIE "Jehova God is watching you"
I don't know if you have to go into expressing feelings of being taken advantage of unless he gets an attitude. Sometimes we stress about things and make them bigger in our head than they are. Make up your mind as to what you are going to say and then do it. Don't think about it just do it, your confidence will come from knowing you are in the right. If he does get rude which he probably won't then whatever you say in return will be from your heart and he will get the point. Bottom line is don't overthink the situation..you want your car back so go get it.AHAHAHA SLOT JUNKIE "Jehova Bog te gleda"
Ne znam da li morate da se upuštate u izražavanje osećanja da ste iskorišćeni osim ako on ne dobije stav. Ponekad se opterećujemo stvarima i činimo ih većim u svojoj glavi nego što jesu. Odlučite se šta ćete reći i onda to uradite. Nemojte razmišljati o tome, samo uradite to, vaše samopouzdanje će proizaći iz saznanja da ste u pravu. Ako bude grub, što verovatno neće, onda će sve što kažete zauzvrat biti iz vašeg srca i on će shvatiti poentu. Suština je da ne razmišljate previše o situaciji.. želite svoj auto nazad pa idite po njega. -
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- u Aug 26, 10, 01:09:54 PM
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Go over there, ring the doorbell, ask if you can come in. Tell him you are sorry to have to do so but need the keys back. Tell him you are no longer comfortable with the car being driven by someone not on your insurance, or just you are no longer comfortable loaning out your car. Tell him it is stressing you out and for him to give you the keys NOW,please.
Lots of people can't understand hints. I usually don't, but I DO understand when someone tells me what is really up.
You don't have to be mean or stressed or get angry. If he won't give you the keys, don't feel bad asking the police to escort you there to get your keys back. Or, tell him your friend (me) here with NO car would love to drive his van while he putts around in your car.
Also look up how much a rental company charges per mile on a rental and tell him you'll need to collect that from him for wear and tear. Also YOU are liable if he wrecks it and kills someone or causes damages.
This is well said and a very tactful way to deal with this! Much better than my old half nasty advice! But hey, enough is a enough!!
Idi tamo, pozvoni na vrata, pitaj da li možeš da uđeš. Reci mu da ti je žao što to moraš da uradiš, ali da ti trebaju ključevi nazad. Recite mu da vam više nije prijatno da auto vozi neko ko nije u vašem osiguranju, ili vam jednostavno više nije prijatno da pozajmite svoj automobil. Reci mu da te to opterećuje i da ti da ključeve SADA, molim te.
Mnogi ljudi ne mogu da razumeju nagoveštaje. Obično ne razumem, ali razumem kada mi neko kaže šta se zaista dešava.
Ne morate da budete zlobni, pod stresom ili da se ljutite. Ako vam ne da ključeve, nemojte se osećati loše da tražite od policije da vas otprati tamo da vam vrate ključeve. Ili mu recite da vaš prijatelj (ja) ovde bez automobila ne bi voleo da vozi njegov kombi dok se on ubacuje u vaš auto.
Takođe pogledajte koliko kompanija za iznajmljivanje naplaćuje po milji za iznajmljivanje i recite mu da ćete to morati da naplatite od njega zbog habanja. I VI ste odgovorni ako ga on uništi i ubije nekoga ili izazove štetu.
Ovo je dobro rečeno i veoma taktičan način da se pozabavite ovim! Mnogo bolje od mog starog pola gadnog saveta! Ali hej, dosta je bilo!! -
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- u Aug 26, 10, 01:12:36 PM
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From what you've described ACGofer he's a pretty laid back guy..don't get yourself all worked up and go over ready for combat, that way you won't possibly over react for the slightest thing and question if you handled it right.
Just go get your car girl! I'm pretty sure he'll say no problem I understand and thank you for letting me use it.Prema onome što ste opisali, ACGofer je prilično opušten momak.. nemojte se uzbuđivati i pripremati se za borbu, na taj način nećete preterano reagovati ni na najmanju stvar i pitanje da li ste to uradili kako treba .
Samo idi po svoju auto devojku! Prilično sam siguran da će reći nema problema. Razumem i hvala vam što ste mi dozvolili da ga koristim. -
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- u Aug 26, 10, 01:14:35 PM
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It is tough especially when you have a good heart and you feel your being taken advantage of. You got some wonderful advice here and i would take it!!
Just march over there, pull your boot straps up and remember we are all there with ya in spirit!
LipsTeško je posebno kada imate dobro srce i osećate da ste iskorišćeni. Ovde imate divan savet i prihvatio bih ga!!
Samo marširajte tamo, povucite kaiševe za čizme i zapamtite da smo svi duhom tu sa vama!
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- u Aug 26, 10, 01:15:56 PM
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You all make me feel so strong about this. But I'm a big softee. You all can understand how tough this is for me to do, I'm sure. He is at work now, and should be home in about 4hrs.
So I have that long to get a grip, take my Celexa(anti-anxiety) and listen to some more input from my friends here :-XZbog vas se svi osećam tako snažno. Ali ja sam veliki softe. Svi razumete koliko mi je ovo teško, siguran sam. On je sada na poslu i trebalo bi da bude kući za oko 4 sata.
Tako da imam toliko vremena da se uhvatim u koštac, uzmem svoj Celeka (protiv anksioznosti) i poslušam još nešto od mojih prijatelja ovde :-Ks -
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- u Aug 26, 10, 01:20:04 PM
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From what you've described ACGofer he's a pretty laid back guy..don't get yourself all worked up and go over ready for combat, that way you won't possibly over react for the slightest thing and question if you handled it right.
Just go get your car girl! I'm pretty sure he'll say no problem I understand and thank you for letting me use it.
I don't know that he will that laid back about it( "no problem...") He would of taken the hints that a child could understand and gave her the keys back by lets say, the 2nd,3rd hint! :-)
Prema onome što ste opisali, ACGofer je prilično opušten momak.. nemojte se uzbuđivati i pripremati se za borbu, na taj način nećete preterano reagovati ni na najmanju stvar i pitanje da li ste to uradili kako treba .
Samo idi po svoju auto devojku! Prilično sam siguran da će reći nema problema. Razumem i hvala vam što ste mi dozvolili da ga koristim.
Ne znam da li će to opustiti ("nema problema...") On bi uzeo nagoveštaje koje bi dete moglo da razume i vratio joj ključeve, recimo, 2., 3. nagoveštaja! :-) -
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- u Aug 26, 10, 01:27:27 PM
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His original request was to go back and forth to work, so the moment he knew he was gonna kinda just use it as his car, he should of been back over there ASKING you if it is ok to use it for more traveling. As well as telling you he knows it has been much longer than he expected, but he is so appreciative and he promises to have it back to you by xxxxx day and in the same or better condition that he got it in!
I am with you on the morals thing(my mom has her ways, but she taught well). I don't even like to borrow people's things for fear that something might happen to it while it is in my possession! But if I do, I treat it like a new born baby!Njegov prvobitni zahtev je bio da ide napred-nazad na posao, tako da je u trenutku kada je znao da će ga koristiti samo kao svoj auto, trebalo je da se vrati tamo i da vas PITA da li je u redu da ga koristite za više putovanja. Kao i da vam kaže da zna da je prošlo mnogo duže nego što je očekivao, ali je tako zahvalan i obećava da će vam ga vratiti do kkkkk dana iu istom ili boljem stanju u kojem ga je dobio!
Slažem se sa tobom po pitanju morala (moja mama ima svoje načine, ali dobro je učila). Ne volim ni da pozajmljujem tuđe stvari iz straha da im se nešto ne desi dok je u mom vlasništvu! Ali ako to uradim, tretiram to kao novorođenu bebu! -
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- acgofer
- u Aug 26, 10, 01:44:29 PM
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Although I'm still open to more suggestions, I deeply thank you all for taking the time to read this and offering your thoughts(this applies to anyone else that may respond)
You've all been great supporting me.
@Lips... you're right, it's time for me to put my big girl pants on & the thought that you're all behind me is very supportive
@allgood....he is pretty laid back and you are so one the dot w/me..I always tend to overanalyze and worry more than needed.
@slotjunk...lol..u got it there when you said he would have gotten the hints 2nd,3rd,4th...but is it really true that men are so oblivious and not as bright as women?
@Imag.... you are so right when you said he has no excuse. The mans got the money..I believe its a matter of pure laziness, and would rather run down someone elses car.Maybe not intentionally, but it's black and white.
He always says to my husband "I'm your brother from another Mother" lol.. and now I feel like saying to him, "Didn't your Mama teach you to not take advantage of those who offer their help"
Motto of the day: No good deed goes unpunished
Iako sam i dalje otvoren za još predloga, duboko vam se zahvaljujem svima što ste odvojili vreme da ovo pročitate i ponudite svoje mišljenje (ovo se odnosi na sve druge koji bi mogli da odgovore)
Svi ste bili sjajni podržavajući me.
@Lips... u pravu si, vreme je da obučem svoje velike devojačke pantalone i pomisao da ste svi iza mene je velika podrška
@allgood....on je prilično opušten, a ti si tako jedna tačka sa mnom..Uvek sam sklon da preterano analiziram i brinem više nego što je potrebno.
@slotjunk...lol..uhvatio si ga kada si rekao da bi dobio nagoveštaje 2.,3.,4....ali da li je zaista istina da su muškarci toliko nesvesni i da nisu tako bistri kao žene?
@Imag.... u pravu si kad si rekao da nema izgovora. Muškarci su dobili pare..Mislim da je u pitanju čista lenjost, i radije bi pregazio tuđi auto.Možda ne namerno, ali je crno-belo.
Uvek kaže mom mužu "ja sam ti brat od druge majke" lol.. i sada mi se čini da mu kažem: "Zar te tvoja mama nije naučila da ne koristiš one koji nude svoju pomoć"
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- u Aug 26, 10, 02:03:26 PM
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It sounds like your "friend" is truly taking advantage of your good nature. Old or not - it's your car! Why are you so worried about asking for it back?
Just tell him you need your car back please, hold out your hand and ask for your keys. Simple, to the point and he knows where he stands. Oh and don't lend it to him again!
blueZvuči kao da vaš "prijatelj" zaista koristi vašu dobru prirodu. Star ili ne - to je tvoj auto! Zašto se toliko brineš da to tražiš nazad?
Samo mu reci da ti treba auto nazad, molim te, ispruži ruku i zatraži ključeve. Jednostavno, do tačke i zna gde je. O i nemoj mu više pozajmiti!
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"Jehovah God is watching you,"
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- u Aug 26, 10, 03:09:04 PM
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Might be easier for you to write it in a note and stick it on his door.
"I need my keys back tonight, please bring them over"
that would be the very least you can say to get your point across. You really don't have to go into any details. If he asks say it doesn't matter why; I need my keys back is all.
too much discussion will only make it uncomfortable for you and easier for him to use smokescreens to keep the car. I say get it back today-his other car works.
Maybe I say this because I've been stuck without a car for about 6 months here in the country and my neighbors won't even give me a ride anywhere. I have to walk a mile to the mailbox, and it's extremely hot and I am having to pay people from another town to drive way out here when I need groceries. It is 5 miles to town. Your neighbor should be kissing your feet, showering you with roses, saying thank you at least once a week and leaving you your car on the weekends at the very least.
take it back. as soon as possible. todayMožda bi ti bilo lakše da to zapišeš u belešku i zalepiš mu je na vrata.
"Trebaju mi ključevi večeras, molim te donesi ih"
to bi bilo najmanje što možete da kažete da biste preneli svoju poentu. Zaista ne morate da ulazite u detalje. Ako pita, reci da nije važno zašto; Trebaju mi ključevi nazad.
previše diskusije će vam samo učiniti neprijatnim, a njemu će biti lakše da koristi dimne zavese da zadrži automobil. Kažem da ga vratite danas - njegov drugi auto radi.
Možda ovo kažem zato što sam zaglavljen bez auta oko 6 meseci ovde na selu, a komšije me nigde ne žele ni odvesti. Moram da pređem milju do poštanskog sandučeta, a izuzetno je vruće i moram da plaćam ljudima iz drugog grada da se odvezu ovamo kada mi zatrebaju namirnice. Do grada je 5 milja. Vaš komšija bi trebalo da vam ljubi noge, obasipa vas ružama, kaže vam hvala bar jednom nedeljno i ostavlja vam auto barem vikendom.
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- u Aug 26, 10, 03:14:09 PM
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Chilly...
Awh, I would be so willing to help you if you lived near..and NOT charge you a penny to do grocery shopping. I myself was without a vehicle for 3 years before my husband got the company vehicle.
You know, I thought about writing a letter.. I can express my feelings so much better when I write than when I speak. I tend to fumble on my speech when I'm dealing with an awkward situation.
Still a few hrs left to decide which route Im going to take. THEN I still have to have an uncomfortable/stressful discussion with my hubby tonight when he gets home, so yes, my nerves are shot today.hladno...
Ah, bio bih tako voljan da ti pomognem da živiš u blizini... i da ti NE naplaćujem ni peni za kupovinu namirnica. I sama sam bila bez vozila 3 godine pre nego što je moj muž dobio službeno vozilo.
Znate, razmišljao sam da napišem pismo.. Mogu mnogo bolje da izrazim svoja osećanja kada pišem nego kada govorim. Sklon sam da petljam u svom govoru kada imam posla u nezgodnoj situaciji.
Ostalo je još nekoliko sati da odlučim kojim putem ću ići. ONDA još uvek moram da vodim neprijatnu/stresnu raspravu sa svojim mužem večeras kada se vrati kući, tako da da, danas su mi nervi ispucali. -
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- u Aug 26, 10, 05:07:25 PM
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It'll be okay, you are already a HERO to your neighbor, and your hubby, no matter what they think while they are dealing with the end of this issue!
Biće sve u redu, već si HEROJ za svog komšiju, i za svog muža, ma šta mislili dok se bave završetkom ovog izdanja!
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- u Aug 26, 10, 05:25:20 PM
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it kind of sounds to me like he is a worthless sack of crap. perhaps he needs to man up and buy you a new car so he can keep the one of yours he loves so much and has trashed. people who are "users" are usually "losers" and he seems to fit the bill. unleash the dogs of war on his dumbass if he is too ignorant to realize he has taken advantage of your kindness. dont be nice.....you already tried that route! dabigdog
nekako mi zvuči kao da je bezvredna vreća sranja. možda treba da se popravi i kupi ti novi auto kako bi mogao da zadrži onaj tvoj koji toliko voli i koji je uništio. ljudi koji su "korisnici" su obično "gubitnici" i izgleda da se uklapa u račun. oslobodi pse rata na njegovu glupaču ako je previše neuk da bi shvatio da je iskoristio vašu dobrotu. ne budi fin.....već si probao taj put! dabigdog
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- u Aug 26, 10, 10:37:21 PM
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Well, I went over to bring him some vinegar for a bee sting he got today. And we chatted for a while, and I said,' ok. are you ready to have an uncomfortable conversation?Well, at least uncomfortable for me" He asked what it was, what was bothering me, and I said," Well, I kind of would like to have a date that I can expect,my car..ya know?"
He said, " oh, yeah,yeah, I know u want your car. I told Dave(my hubby) the other night that I hope u guys aren't pissed at me I've had the car so long. But I bought a new Van, and I'm taking it to the shop so they can put a back door on it. I just want to be able to get my nephew home next weekend ..you know, make sure I make it up there ok." (his nephew has been staying w/him the summer..and lives about an hr away)
Then he said," So yeah, after I take Nick home next weekend, I'll bring the new van to get fixed, and they should have it done for me by the following weekend. So probably the 2nd weekend in Sept."
I said," alright.No, I dont want you to get stuck. I just want you to have a reliable vehicle of your own,ya know?"
Then we talked about other things.
So...i guess the deadline is the 2nd weekend in September.
oh, then he said,"dont ever feel uncomfortable about asking for your car back..it's YOUR car"
it is? lolPa, otišao sam da mu donesem sirće za ubod pčele koji je danas dobio. I ćaskali smo neko vreme, a ja sam rekao, 'ok. jesi li spreman za neprijatan razgovor? Pa, barem meni neprijatno" Pitao je šta je to, šta me muči, a ja sam rekao: "Pa, nekako bih voleo da imam sastanak koji mogu da očekujem, moj auto..znaš?"
Rekao je: "Oh, da, da, znam da želiš svoj auto. Rekao sam Dejvu (mojem mužu) pre neko veče da se nadam da se ne ljutite na mene, toliko dugo imam auto. Ali kupio sam novi kombi, i nosim ga u prodavnicu da mogu da mu stave zadnja vrata Samo želim da mogu da odvedem svog nećaka kući sledećeg vikenda ..znaš, pobrini se da to uradim tamo dobro. " (njegov nećak je boravio kod njega tokom leta..i živi oko sat vremena daleko)
Onda je rekao: „Dakle, nakon što odvedem Nika kući sledećeg vikenda, doneću novi kombi da ga poprave, a trebalo bi da to urade za mene do sledećeg vikenda. Dakle, verovatno 2. vikenda u septembru.“
Rekao sam, "u redu. Ne, ne želim da se zaglaviš. Samo želim da imaš svoje pouzdano vozilo, znaš?"
Onda smo razgovarali o drugim stvarima.
Dakle... pretpostavljam da je rok 2. vikend u septembru.
Oh, onda je rekao, "nemoj nikada da se osećaš neprijatno da tražiš nazad svoj auto.. to je TVOJ auto" To je? lol -
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- u Aug 26, 10, 10:51:21 PM
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Good job..now you have a deadline and the stress for needing to handle it is gone.
Dobar posao..sada imate rok i stres zbog potrebe da se nosite sa tim je nestao.
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- u Aug 27, 10, 01:07:08 AM
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OMG Are you friggin kiddin me?!! Girl you are a good one, first of all he is NOT a helpless old guy, he has 3 CARS!!!! He is not decrepid but he HAS been around the block enough to know whats up!! A week or two...OK, but since APRIL!!? And 4000 miles?!! AND SMOKING FUNKYAZZ CIGARS AND FUGGING UP THE INTERIOR?!!! AWWWWWWW HELLLLL NAWWW GIRL, Yes you can be tactful and stay calm with this man, he KNOWS what he is doing and he KNOWS he is taking advantage too, I would try to follow Chilly's suggestion, but the whole time I would prolly have a real CRAZY AZZED LOOK on my face and in my EYES especially to let this old fart know his free ride is OVER and that you do not owe him CHIT!!? I do not understand why some people in this world think others OWE them something, You have gone ABOVE and BEYOND,nice, patient, tolerant, christian like, neighborly, WELL ABOVE!! NO NO NO NO NO!!!
Does this oblivious fool KNOW that you have barely driven your own vehicle? Yeah so what if it was sitting for awhile, he has 3 cars and could have sold 1 or 2 to get a car with air or to put air in one, NO EXCUSE, he is blatantly taking advantage...my mother and my grandmother ALWAYS told me to be neighborly BUT NOT too neighborly becuase your probably going to have to live next to those people a longggg time and you need to keep some boundaries because with some if you take a favor from them you will owe them for LIFE!! Girl go get your car ASAP
OMG, jel' me ti zezaš?!! Devojko dobra si, pre svega NIJE bespomoćni matori, ima 3 AUTOMOBILA!!!! On nije oronuo, ali je bio dovoljno oko bloka da zna šta ima!! Nedelju dve...OK, ali od APRILA!!? I 4000 milja?!! I PUŠITI FUNKIAZZ CIGARE I KRŠATI ENTERIJER?!!! AVVVVVVV HELLLLL NAVVV DEVOJKO, da, možete biti taktični i mirni sa ovim čovekom, on ZNA šta radi i ZNA da i on koristi prednost, pokušao bih da sledim Čilijev predlog, ali sve vreme bih imao pravo LUDO IZNEMLJENI POGLED na moje lice i u moje OČI, posebno da ovom starom prdcu stavim do znanja da mu je slobodna vožnja ZAVRŠENA i da mu ne duguješ CIT!!? Ne razumem zašto neki ljudi na ovom svetu misle da im drugi nešto DUŽUJU, Otišli ste IZNAD i IZNAD, lepo, strpljivo, tolerantno, hrišćanski, komšijski, DOBRO IZNAD!! NE NE NE NE NE!!!
Da li ova nesvesna budala ZNA da ste jedva vozili svoje vozilo? Da, pa šta ako je sedeo neko vreme, on ima 3 auta i mogao je da proda 1 ili 2 da nabavi auto sa vazduhom ili da stavi vazduh u jedan, BEZ OPRAVDANJA, on očigledno koristi prednost... moja majka i moja baka UVEK SI mi govorio da budem komšijski ALI NE previše komšijski jer ćeš verovatno morati da živiš pored tih ljudi još dugo i moraš da zadržiš neke granice jer sa nekima ako uzmeš uslugu od njih ćeš im dugovati doživotno!! Devojko idi po auto što pre -
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OK sorry I didnt see you had already talked to him ,but I was so upset for you I just got so mad and needed to vent and wished I had an "old man" doll , so I could shake the living chit out of it!!!! Whew
Keep us posted, and btw how is a van "new" if it needs a door?!! me confused!!OK izvini što nisam video da si već razgovarao s njim, ali sam bio toliko uznemiren zbog tebe da sam se toliko naljutio i morao sam da dam oduška i poželeo sam da imam lutku "starca", da bih mogao da se otresem živog đira iz nje! !!! Vhev
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- u Aug 27, 10, 08:22:45 AM
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*Shakes head* Cheeky sod!
Talk about take the proverbial.
Well I'm glad you confronted him Acgofer and you have a date to get YOUR car back.
blue*Odmahuje glavom* Bezobrazan!
Razgovarajte o poslovici.
Drago mi je što si se suočio sa njim Acgoferom i imaš sastanak da vratiš SVOJ auto.
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- u Aug 27, 10, 10:45:06 AM
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Darn Ally.....
I wouldn't have had this problem if I just sent YOU over there months ago to handle the situation! lol
I hope he at least gets the oil changed before I get it back.....but I highly doubt it >:(Prokleti saveznik.....
Ne bih imao ovaj problem da sam VAS poslao tamo pre nekoliko meseci da rešite situaciju! lol
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- u Aug 27, 10, 01:30:18 PM
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You poor baby, I know EXACTLY what you are going thru. The biggest gossipy goose in my condo complex had my car. I was desperate and very sick I live alone and felt like my left side was numb and I was having a heart attack, i knew she was home at the end of the hallway. I knocked on her door and she said they only have one car her husband uses for work, I said can you take me to the hospital in my car she did. I was really really greatful, i stayed overnight in hospital, she drove my car home. She came to get me the next day I did say if you ever need my car to go to store or for kids etc you can take it. Stupid me. She has had my car and my keys for almost 3 wks I told her kids outside playing I nd to find your mom, to get my mail keys are on my ring. They could not find her, she was gossiping in some unit. So called her cell for days she did not pick up, knocked on her door no answer. I got my keys back to get catfood then she said she needed it back after I came back to take kids to dr. So I see no gas in my car I had full tank radio blasting and ac full blast when i turned it on. I have my keys back for today but yes she will turn the complex against me if I tell her no more!!!! My biggest fear if I get sick again and nd her help? I even pd her husband $300 cash to put in garbage disposal, I bought disposal for $150 so this was labor only? If she wrecked my car she would not give a chit!!!! I am sure all the other neighbors would not let her use their car, but she gossips and drinks with them everyday. I hate feeling used and taken advantage of.
Ti jadna bebo, ja TAČNO znam kroz šta prolaziš. Najveća tračerska guska u mom stambenom kompleksu imala je moj auto. Bio sam očajan i veoma bolestan. Živim sam i osećao sam se kao da mi je leva strana utrnula i da imam srčani udar, znao sam da je kod kuće na kraju hodnika. Pokucao sam na njena vrata i rekla je da imaju samo jedan auto koji njen muž koristi za posao, rekla sam da li možete da me odvezete u bolnicu mojim kolima. Bio sam zaista veoma zahvalan, ostao sam preko noći u bolnici, ona je odvezla moj auto kući. Došla je po mene sledećeg dana, rekao sam da ako ti ikada zatreba moj auto da odeš u prodavnicu ili za decu itd., možeš da ga uzmeš. Glupi ja. Ima moj auto i moje ključeve skoro 3 nedelje. Rekao sam njenoj deci da se igraju napolju da nađem tvoju mamu, da uzmem ključeve od pošte na mom prstenu. Nisu mogli da je nađu, ogovarala je u nekoj jedinici. Tako zvali njenu ćeliju danima se nije javljala, kucala na vrata bez odgovora. Vratio sam ključeve da uzmem hranu za mačke, a ona je rekla da joj treba nazad nakon što sam se vratio da odvedem decu kod dr. Tako da ne vidim gas u svom autu. Radio sam u punom rezervoaru i naizmeničnom strujom kada sam ga uključio. Vratio sam ključeve za danas, ali da, ona će okrenuti kompleks protiv mene ako joj više ne kažem!!!! Moj najveći strah ako se ponovo razbolim i nađem njenu pomoć? Čak sam i dao njenom mužu 300 dolara u gotovini za odlaganje smeća, kupio sam odlaganje za 150 dolara, tako da je ovo bila samo radna snaga? Da mi je razbila auto, ne bi dala mamu!!!! Siguran sam da joj sve ostale komšije ne bi dozvolile da koristi njihov auto, ali ona svakodnevno ogovara i pije sa njima. Mrzim da se osećam iskorišćeno i iskorišćeno.
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LOL right now knocking on my door to use my car, of course I am NOT answering!!!! Even the KNOCK is neighborly, that da, da da da dunt, da dunt. HA
LOL sada kucam na moja vrata da koristim auto, naravno da se NE javljam!!!! Čak je i KUCANJE komšijsko, to da, da da da dunt, da dunt. HA
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It's just a matter of putting it right. You can always say that YOUR FAMILY needs the car back, it's not a matter of choice. If you could, you would leave it to him for a little while longer, but you're in so much need for it at the moment, that you can't let the family suffer without it anymore.
Samo je pitanje da se to ispravi. Uvek možete reći da VAŠOJ PORODICI treba auto nazad, to nije stvar izbora. Da možete, prepustili biste mu to još malo, ali vam je to toliko potrebno, da ne možete više da dozvolite porodici da pati bez toga.
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- lucky8s
- u Aug 28, 10, 01:29:41 AM
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acgofer, you and I are the same ppl I am always asking myself would I take advantage of someones kindness like that? NEVER EVER. My favorite saying is "DON'T TAKE MY KINDNESS FOR WEAKNESS" IT IS NOT!!!! I can be a Broadzilla Beetch but most times I choose not to. Like you, my neighbor says were like sisters? Huh, you did not put gas in my car sister? You kept my keys sister? Sometimes, I think they have a deficite, social or learning. Like they don't know right from wrong? Then when you find your backbone like I did today, you feel terrible for sticking up for yourself, because they look so hurt?
acgofer, ti i ja smo isti ppl. Uvek se pitam da li bih tako iskoristio nečiju dobrotu? NIKAD VIŠE. Moja omiljena izreka je "NE UZMI MOJU ljubaznost ZA SLABOSTI" NIJE!!!! Mogu da budem Broadzilla Beetch, ali većinu puta odlučim da ne budem. Kao ti, moja komšinica kaže da su bile kao sestre? Huh, nisi stavio benzin u moj auto sestro? Zadržala si moje ključeve sestro? Ponekad, mislim da imaju manjak, socijalni ili učenje. Kao da ne razlikuju dobro od pogrešnog? Onda kada nađeš svoju kičmu kao ja danas, osećaš se užasno što se zalažeš za sebe, jer izgledaju tako povređeno?
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- u Aug 28, 10, 04:35:41 AM
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The problem is that there are givers in this life and there are takers and there are also givers/takers and then there are these people who "think" they are givers. They are giving you the opportunity to be kind to them, they are also giving you the opportunity to see hurt in their eyes when you ask for your car back. They also give you the chance to be their friend and they allow you to give all that you do. These people do not think of how it is on "your side of the fence" - they only think of themselves.
If the shoe was on the other foot, I'm sure they would not be as kind and as reasonable as you two are being.
Stop being so hard on yourselves - you are wonderful Acgofer and lucky8s, people who care and people who give all the time and sometimes you will be taken advantage of. This is one of those times.
blueProblem je u tome što u ovom životu postoje oni koji daju, postoje oni koji uzimaju, a postoje i oni koji daju/uzimaju i onda postoje ovi ljudi koji "misle" da su davaoci. Daju vam priliku da budete ljubazni prema njima, takođe vam daju priliku da vidite povređenost u njihovim očima kada tražite da vam vrate auto. Oni vam takođe daju priliku da im budete prijatelj i dozvoljavaju vam da date sve što radite. Ovi ljudi ne razmišljaju kako je na „vašoj strani ograde“ – misle samo na sebe.
Da je cipela na drugoj nozi, siguran sam da ne bi bili tako ljubazni i razumni kao što ste vas dvoje.
Prestanite da budete tako strogi prema sebi - vi ste divni Acgofer i srećnici 8, ljudi kojima je stalo i ljudi koji daju sve vreme i ponekad ćete biti iskorišćeni. Ovo je jedno od onih vremena.
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- u Aug 28, 10, 09:46:21 AM
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Thank you Blue...a new way to look at it. You are absolutely right!
Hvala Blue...nov način da se to pogleda. Apsolutno si u pravu!
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- u Aug 28, 10, 11:36:55 AM
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Perfectly said!
The problem is that there are givers in this life and there are takers and there are also givers/takers and then there are these people who "think" they are givers. They are giving you the opportunity to be kind to them, they are also giving you the opportunity to see hurt in their eyes when you ask for your car back. They also give you the chance to be their friend and they allow you to give all that you do. These people do not think of how it is on "your side of the fence" - they only think of themselves.
If the shoe was on the other foot, I'm sure they would not be as kind and as reasonable as you two are being.
Stop being so hard on yourselves - you are wonderful Acgofer and lucky8s, people who care and people who give all the time and sometimes you will be taken advantage of. This is one of those times.
blue
Savršeno rečeno!
Problem je u tome što u ovom životu postoje oni koji daju, postoje oni koji uzimaju, a postoje i oni koji daju/uzimaju i onda postoje ovi ljudi koji "misle" da su davaoci. Daju vam priliku da budete ljubazni prema njima, takođe vam daju priliku da vidite povređenost u njihovim očima kada tražite da vam vrate auto. Oni vam takođe daju priliku da im budete prijatelj i dozvoljavaju vam da date sve što radite. Ovi ljudi ne razmišljaju kako je na „vašoj strani ograde“ – misle samo na sebe.
Da je cipela na drugoj nozi, siguran sam da ne bi bili tako ljubazni i razumni kao što ste vas dvoje.
Prestanite da budete tako strogi prema sebi - vi ste divni Acgofer i srećnici 8, ljudi kojima je stalo i ljudi koji daju sve vreme i ponekad ćete biti iskorišćeni. Ovo je jedno od onih vremena.
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Luv ya Blue, you always say things so ELOQUENTLY!!!!
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Today starts the 2nd wkend of Sept...my car still sits 2 doors down. Luckily I go to NJ tomorrow to see family...lets see if my car is in my driveway by Sunday.
*sigh*Danas počinje 2. nedelja septembra...moj auto još uvek stoji 2 vrata. Srećom, sutra idem u NJ da vidim porodicu... da vidimo da li je moj auto na mom prilazu do nedelje.
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Maybe put a carwash coupon on the windshield of your neighbor's car...I mean...YOUR car. Kind of a hint/reminder/suggestion all in a nice sudsy way.
Možda stavite kupon za pranje automobila na šoferšajbnu komšijskog auta...mislim...VAŠ auto. Neka vrsta nagoveštaja/podsetnika/sugestija, sve na lep način.
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- u Sep 10, 10, 11:22:14 PM
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Awww Ac your just a sweetheart for not going off!! I hope it is in your driveway when you back.
Have a safe trip and enjoy!
LipsAvvv Ac ti si samo draga što nisi otišao!! Nadam se da je na vašem prilazu kada se vratite.
Sretan put i uživajte!
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hey ac-
i know this doesn't help you much with your current situation, but for what its worth...just know that your generosity and kind spirit will come back and repay you ten fold. : )hej ac-
Znam da vam ovo ne pomaže mnogo u vašoj trenutnoj situaciji, ali koliko vredi... samo znajte da će vam se vaša velikodušnost i ljubazan duh vratiti i vratiti vam deset puta. :) -
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You are way too nice. I guess I'm just a bitch.
Maybe if you & your hubby offered to fix the AC in his van, he wouldn't have any excuse to drive your KIA any longer and you wouldn't feel bad for taking your car back? Just a thought.Previše si fin. Valjda sam samo kučka.
Možda ako ste vi i vaš muž ponudili da popravite klima uređaj u njegovom kombiju, on ne bi imao nikakvog izgovora da više vozi vašu KIA-u i ne biste se osećali loše što ste vratili svoj auto? Samo misao. -
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Today starts the 2nd wkend of Sept...my car still sits 2 doors down. Luckily I go to NJ tomorrow to see family...lets see if my car is in my driveway by Sunday.
*sigh*
Hi Acgofer,
If your car is not in your driveway, I suggest you get your marching shoes on, keep reminding yourself that this "friend" has now crossed the line in taking your kindness for granted and go ask for your car back. No niceties this time.
You have to put your foot down with a firm hand!
Good luck.
blue
Danas počinje 2. nedelja septembra...moj auto još uvek stoji 2 vrata. Srećom, sutra idem u NJ da vidim porodicu... da vidimo da li je moj auto na mom prilazu do nedelje.
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Zdravo Acgofer,
Ako vaš auto nije na vašem prilazu, predlažem da obučete marširane cipele, stalno se podsećajte da je ovaj „prijatelj“ sada prešao granicu uzimajući vašu ljubaznost zdravo za gotovo i odete da tražite svoj auto nazad. Ovog puta bez sitnica.
Morate spustiti nogu čvrstom rukom!
Srećno.
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Yeah, this guy is 1. thoughtless, or 2. using you. Tell him, or put it in writing "I need my car back in 2 days."
Da, ovaj tip je 1. nepromišljen, ili 2. te koristi. Recite mu, ili napišite to napismeno: „Potreban mi je auto nazad za 2 dana“.
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Yeah, any update on this issue of yours acgofer? Hope the guy collected enough wits to return you the car. If I were him, I'd hate to lose a friend like you over such a petty thing as a car.
Da, ima li novosti o ovom pitanju vašeg acgofera? Nadam se da je tip skupio dovoljno pameti da ti vrati auto. Da sam na njegovom mestu, mrzeo bih da izgubim prijatelja kao što si ti zbog tako sitne stvari kao što je auto.
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- allgood2010
- u Sep 12, 10, 03:59:48 PM
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I agree with Blue..he's taking advantage and with no shame now
Slažem se sa Plavim..on sada iskorištava i bez srama
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Well we went to NJ to see hubbys sick grandma. On our way home today she passed. He watches our dogs and we need him thurs-sun for the funeral. He still has the car
Pa otišli smo u NJ da vidimo muževe bolesne bake. Na našem putu kući danas je prošla. On pazi na naše pse i potreban nam je čet-ned za sahranu. Još uvek ima auto
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Sorry ac to here about your loss. Take good care of your hubby and be safe. My prayers are with you and the family during this difficult time.
LipsŽao mi je zbog vašeg gubitka . Dobro pazite na svog muža i budite sigurni. Moje molitve su uz vas i porodicu tokom ovog teškog vremena.
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So sorry to hear that acgofer. Please accept my deepest sympathy to both you and your husband.
blueŽao mi je što čujem to. Primite moje najdublje saučešće i vama i vašem mužu.
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My sincere condolences, ac! All my positive thoughts are with you and your husband!
Moje iskreno saučešće, ac! Sve moje pozitivne misli su sa vama i vašim mužem!
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Thank you for your condolences...
We are a tight Italian family and this is very hard. Thurs and Fri are services, so I will miss everyone here...but see you again on sat or sun
xoxoxoHvala vam na saučešću...
Mi smo tesna italijanska porodica i ovo je veoma teško. Četvrtak i pet su službe, tako da će mi nedostajati svi ovde...ali vidimo se ponovo u subotu ili po suncu
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so sorry sweetie about everything i hope it all works out your in my prayers
:'(tako da mi je žao dušo zbog svega, nadam se da će ti sve uspeti u mojim molitvama
:'(
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