Da li je moguće biti samo prijatelji?

Lips,
I have tried, and every time, men don't get mad at me please..
But it has been the HIM everytime that can't handle a just being friends relationship, being friends makes it that there is just certain things
you can't talk about anymore.
I had one if i even mentioned going to the club, or dating.. he got an attitude, got all mad, expecting me to stay single lol.. myself i just wished him well
If it's not the "get back together" it's the "i can't stand seeing you with someone else" thing
I have no problem with it, i just can't see not being friends just
because a relationship didn't work out.. to just go on like
you didn't know each other, after you loved and cared for one another..
I had one that became my best friend after a relationship
I think if you can't be friends, then it was something else emotionally
wrong in the relationship, but also it can depend on what kind of
break-up, whether it was a cheating, or lying, or a trust issue.. then it could be different, even then.. i can forgive, but we will stay just friends
Can't hate each other when you loved and cared for each other at one time

Yeah, I am afraid most men can't handle the "lets be friends."  Men hear that and INTERPRET it as the woman saying: "I want to keep you around a little, but NO f..king!  Because I am looking for someone else to do that with!"

I know that is NOT what you women mean, but that is what men often hear.

Shelli, i agree with you..
I can care enough for him to move on and be happy
and if friends we can be then thats fine, but if its over
then its over.. you stay friends or stay away.. lol

Again, guys HEAR lets-be-friends as "You can keep my number, but I am not going to boink you anymore."

Lol.. well if we boink we boink...

i wouldn't really get into his boinkn' bidness, we are just friends..
so he should stay out of my own boink. Men.. they are just gonna
boink and boink, but if we go and boink.. they get all mad

not sure about being able to maintain a friendship after a bad break up. i haven't been in one since highschool (almost 25 yrs ago). i've chosen to explore and be content with non-committal friendship with women. i tend to be very outgoing and flirtacious - laid back and casual. for the most part the beginning period of hanging out has been lots of fun...and then sex happens...and again..and again..until....the inevitable happens...i can't seem to find a word that best describes what it means.. which is why i had to come up with one of my own;

sackrilege - sack-ri-lege
pronounciation - \ˈsa-krə-lij\
definition: similar to sacrilege - but not referring to anything religious. it is a violation or improper reception of a man's friendship in bed.

perhaps it is the social norm to expect a commitment after having sex a few times however it is an expectation that was doomed from the beginning. and as expected the women never take well to my non-committal ways and will go through their period of vandetta and spite. but amazingly as time goes by they finally get to know the true me which is still the same guy the first met and more - still outgoing, flirtacious, laid back, casual and now adding a good friend who expects nothing from you but is always there if you need him. and once that has sunked in, the friendship is awesome.

Soda.. see now we'd be friends i like that kind of man lol..
The reason im so interested in this is because i recently went through a break up.. well about 8 months ago.. and he cannot understand
that i just want to be friends and nothing else, it makes him mad
that i dont get jealous or care about what he does, that i don't try and get him back, i can be friends, wish him well and thats how i feel about any
other relationships, but at the same time im trying to live my life
but he doesn't want to let me.. so if that is the case, then im finding out
that he really didn't care for ME, if he can't let me be happy..
Now what IM trying to say is.. I can be friends.. it's the other that can't
I'm civil and understanding.. that level of a relationship didn't work for us..
So let's just be friends... now even a friendship won't work?
I'm not talking about any bad relationships, those are just DONE in my book
I guess they really kind of sort out, i'm never on a bad term break-up..
Good term or mutual break-ups.. why not be friends..

i think much of it has to do with how we were brought up and what life experiences mould. also it can be hard for a person to differentiate love from obsession or dependentancy or even fear of change. it's so easy for anyone to fall into that trap and i'm no different which is why i try and avoid it altogether. everything for me regarding my relationships with woman is casual - casual evenings, casual talks, casual vacations, casual lunches and dinners and even casual sex. And since its casual for not just me but everyone - it's been great.

Well Soda.. I don't care what anyone says, if you fall in
love and it's the wrong person.. it hurts, happened to me
and the pain was horrible.. so yes i've been afraid.. so
i'm like you i tend not to get deep and yes even after this
i can and would be friends with him, you care and love them
when they are yours, but when they are not yours any longer
you don't.. not even enough to be friends.. then it wasn't true.
I beleive the right person will come along, and when he does
i'll know it and so will he.. meantime being friends and
understanding that works for me, then theres no break-ups!

yea...i hear what you are saying...i think my perception or understanding of love is different now. although i have gone through the pains of what i thought was love in the past. my philosophy has changed much since those times. the kind of love that intertwines a couple together. the same kind of love that wields a bond so strong nothing not even themselves could separate...is a phenomenon in these present times. synthetic or superficial love has taken its place and we have become so conformed to the ways of this world; too blinded to recognize it.

In majority of cases I'd say NO! In my opinion, it's possible only if it's REALLY mutual decision! And fillings of the both partners have gone...that happens so rare!
To be friends will mean that you will aware about next partner's relationship! But if one of them still have something, it will be painful! Jealousy and so on...Except feelings there also can be a sense of property...Too many obstacles for friendship I think!

I remain best friends with my ex girlfriend.......it is possible just because the chemistry is gone doesn't mean the friendship has to end. She's happy and I'm happy and we are happy for eachother